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SwimWays Toypedo Bandits - 4 Pack SwimWays Toypedo Bandits dive toys rocket through the pool with amazing hydrodynamic action, gliding up to 20 feet underwater!
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$5.74 USD

SwimWays Toypedo Bandits dive toys rocket through the pool with amazing hydrodynamic action, gliding up to 20 feet underwater! Kids can improve their swimming skills by launching a Toypedo Bandit and chasing it through the water. Four colorful bandits in every pack. Ages 5+. Colors and styles may vary. From the Manufacturer Toypedo Bandits are designed around the hydrodynamic complex principles of nuclear submarines and are underwater toys that glide up to 30 feet! Brightly colored with numbered point values to enhance game play in the water! Use in the pool or in the bath tub. You can use these in conjunction with the Toypedo Blast for additional fun.

2016
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FRIDAY the 13th : BLOODBATH #3, Wrap, Avatar, 2005, NM, more Horror in store
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$13.79 USD
FRIDAY the 13th : BLOODBATH #3, Wrap, Avatar, 2005, NM, more Horror in store
2017
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Rose Gold Triangle Expertly Made With Sparkling Starlight Crystal From SWAROVSKI Elements Stud Earrings for Women About Carfeny: Carfeny is a big professional design team. We create meaningful, eco-conscious jewelry and accessories to empower
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$14.94 USD

About Carfeny: Carfeny is a big professional design team. We create meaningful, eco-conscious jewelry and accessories to empower the light in you. Carfeny products are proudly designed and made with love. Carfeny is offering the Exquisite, Fashion, Low Price, Happiness concept of brand, high quality jewelry at affordable price with cost-effective materials, such as tungsten, cobalt, sterling silver, stainless steel, titanium, cubic zirconia, crystal, genuine leather.You will never be regretted if you take some times to look at our store and be surprised to find so many unique design. Jewelry Maintenance: Avoid sweat Avoid bath Avoid sleeping Avoid Crash Avoid humidity Avoid chemicals Wipe cloth Well save

2017
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SONGDU Men's Fashion Date Slim Analog Quartz Watches with Stainless Steel Mesh Band Amazing design watch in featuring with great quality , classic styling and high performance add up to an outstanding sport watch
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$27.16 USD

Amazing design watch in featuring with great quality , classic styling and high performance add up to an outstanding sport watch for your land. This luxury watch, places a large round steel case on a robust milanese mesh bracelet. The Black dial is designed for quick and easy read-off. It offers date display function. The dial is capped with a scratch resistant mineral crystal. This watch is driven by Japanese movement. It is rated water resistant to a full 30 meters/99 Feet. Milan strap, fine workmanship, strong balance, wear more comfortable. SONGDU business series waterproof men's watch with fashion style, we own the advanced international manufacture technology and insist to make the classic styling and high performance of men's watch. Time and efficiency are our persisting goal perpetually. Features: *Milanese Mesh watchband and alloy waterproof case with safety clasp,no any hurt of your clothes or hands. *Simple design watch with auto date *Water Resistant 3 atm or 30 m *Mineral Glass Face *Time,Calendar Specification: *Watchcase Diameter:1.6 inch/40mm *Watchcase Thickness:0.26 inch/6.6mm *Band Length (Included the case):9.45 inch/24cm *Watchband Width:0.79 inch/20mm *Watch Weight: 62.5g What You Get: 1*Men's Wrist Watch 1*Quartz Watch English Instruction 1*Adjust the strap tool 1*Multifunctional watch packaging, can be used for other products 30 days money back guarantee Friendly Customer Service:) **NOTE**: 1.Adjust the strap for the first time according to the steps of the picture, to avoid damage to the watch 2.Forced to dial the time and date button, wearing a watch bath swimming will shorten the clock life.

2017
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Night Light - Upgraded LED Night lights for Kids with Music Player & Timer, Ocean Wave Projector with Remote & Easy Touch Mode Perfect for Babies Room and Bedroom 12 LED & 7 Colors (Black) This upgraded Night Light will create an enjoyable and relaxing bedtime experience for kids. Also perfect for adults to create a
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$27.59 USD

This upgraded Night Light will create an enjoyable and relaxing bedtime experience for kids. Also perfect for adults to create a romantic, leisure and cozy atmosphere to achieve physical and mental relaxation in bedroom, living room, bathroom. 7 Light Modes This light can change into 7 colors, you can choose which mode show depending on your mood or the surrounding at ease. Music Player & TF Slot Equipped with TF card slot and built-in mini speaker, you can enjoy lullaby music, relaxing, meditation music while insert TF card or connect with external audio source. And there are four built-in lullaby music. Operational Notes: 1, Long press the switch key 3 seconds to turn on the light mode 1 light, while lullaby music 1 play. 2, Short press the switch key to replace the light mode. 3, If you only need to replace the hypnotic song, press the remote control or host to replace the Previous or Next song. 4, When inserting the TF card or external source, the lullaby automatically shut down. 5, When inserting the external sources, the host and remote control Previous or Next song cannot been operated. 6, According to the remote control H1 / H2 / H4 that the host timer settings, in 1 hour / 2 hours / 4 hours after the automatic shutdown. 7, Press the remote control TIMER OFF button to cancel the timer function. 8, Long press the key to turn off. Specification: - Power Supply: USB cable or 5V AC adapter. - Dimension: 4.72" x 5.31" x 5.71". - Weight: 10.9 oz. - Material: ABS+PC. -Remote Control What's in Package: 1 X Ocean wave night light 1 X Matched USB cable 1 X Remote control(batteries not included) 1 X Manual

2017
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SONGDU Men's Fashion Date Slim Analog Quartz Watches with Stainless Steel Mesh Band Amazing design watch in featuring with great quality , classic styling and high performance add up to an outstanding sport watch
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$27.16 USD

Amazing design watch in featuring with great quality , classic styling and high performance add up to an outstanding sport watch for your land. This luxury watch, places a large round steel case on a robust milanese mesh bracelet. The Black dial is designed for quick and easy read-off. It offers date display function. The dial is capped with a scratch resistant mineral crystal. This watch is driven by Japanese movement. It is rated water resistant to a full 30 meters/99 Feet. Milan strap, fine workmanship, strong balance, wear more comfortable. SONGDU business series waterproof men's watch with fashion style, we own the advanced international manufacture technology and insist to make the classic styling and high performance of men's watch. Time and efficiency are our persisting goal perpetually. Features: *Milanese Mesh watchband and alloy waterproof case with safety clasp,no any hurt of your clothes or hands. *Simple design watch with auto date *Water Resistant 3 atm or 30 m *Mineral Glass Face *Time,Calendar Specification: *Watchcase Diameter:1.6 inch/40mm *Watchcase Thickness:0.26 inch/6.6mm *Band Length (Included the case):9.45 inch/24cm *Watchband Width:0.79 inch/20mm *Watch Weight: 62.5g What You Get: 1*Men's Wrist Watch 1*Quartz Watch English Instruction 1*Adjust the strap tool 1*Multifunctional watch packaging, can be used for other products 30 days money back guarantee Friendly Customer Service:) **NOTE**: 1.Adjust the strap for the first time according to the steps of the picture, to avoid damage to the watch 2.Forced to dial the time and date button, wearing a watch bath swimming will shorten the clock life.

2017
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NYC Home Design Canopy Weight Bags - 4 Pack - Black NYC Home Design - A better home, a better life. NYC Home Design was founded with the idea of enhancing homes with small decor
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$28.74 USD

NYC Home Design - A better home, a better life. NYC Home Design was founded with the idea of enhancing homes with small decor products that are exceptional in quality, value, and style. Our products are designed to make both your home and life better a little at a time. From your bedroom to your kitchen, your bathroom to your backyard, we have products to make your home feel more like the home of your dreams. Dimensions: 8.4 x 7.6 x 1.5 inches Color: Black Package includes: 4 pack of canopy weight bags Material: Waterproof 800D polyester fabric coating with PVC Click the "Add to Cart" button now to take advantage of this limited time offer.

2017
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Solar Fountain Hiluckey 1.4W Solar Pump Bird Bath Fountain Self powered for Garden and Patio Watering, Solar Panel Kit Water Pump Solar Power Fountain Pump Floating Drifting Panel Pool Pond Garden Décor This product is suitable for bird bath, fish tank,
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$19.54 USD

Solar Power Fountain Pump Floating Drifting Panel Pool Pond Garden Décor This product is suitable for bird bath, fish tank, small pond, garden decoration, water circulation for oxygen, etc. The product works best by placing it in an unobstructed sunlight area. Specifications: Solar panels: 7V / 1.4W Solar panel diameter: 16 cm (6.3 inches) Pump power: 6V / 0.3-0.4W Maximum pump flow: 150 L / H Maximum water spray height: 18" The pump will start automatically in 3 seconds when sufficient sunlight gained. The item can float in the water, high flexibility and no need to install the pump, convenient to use There are some tips that you need note when you use this pump: 1, Clean the pump regularly. If it’s dirty, it will stop the pump from working 2, As the power of the solar panel is depended on the sunlight, The pump is driven directly by the sunlight. When the sunlight is too weak, the pump may not work continuously, but will pump continuously when the sunlight reaches a certain high intensive brightness. 3, when you install this pump pls remove Sprinkler head first ,then waiting the water Flow out then install spray head. 4, There are four kinds of spray heads ,connect different spray head will have different performance. One year Warranty Period. Any questions, please do not hesitate to contact us by email and we will do our best to solve the problems for you. If there any customer confused with product's instruction, pls feel free to contact us , we will send newest manual to you.

2017
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Multi-Functional Dog Shower - Bath Massager Handheld Sprayer Shampoo Brush Grooming Tool for Dogs and Cats with Stainless Steel Hose, Indoor and Outdoor Use by MIU PET Size:Blue-7.7 Feet(New) | Color:Blue Product Description Healthy pet with bright and clean hair are always popular. To keep
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$21.84 USD

Size:Blue-7.7 Feet(New) | Color:Blue Product Description Healthy pet with bright and clean hair are always popular. To keep pets in good and healthy condition, pay more attention on the environment and feeding is not enough, another key point is that we should give pets a shower timely and correctly. Research shows 40% of pet skin diseases are caused by residual shampoo and water. So a proper shower ware is very necessary. MIU PET multifunctional shower is the product to make pets healthy. Your dog could enjoy the shower and massage at the same time. Our shower can clean dog's skin thoroughly and keep the hair tidily, daily use will reduce the risk of pet skin diseases much more. Package included: 1* pet shower head 1* stainless steel hose 2* hose adapters 1* user manual Product specification Sprayer head: 4.33 * 3.15 inches(10cm*8cm) Hose: 7.7 feet Specifications of 2 hose adapters: 1 *13/16’’(2.1cm)Metal Hose Adapter - Applies to indoor bathroom tap in general 1*25/32’’(2cm)Plastic Hose Adapter - Applies to indoor basin tap Notes: 1. Due to batch differences, some are with plastic covers on hose end, take off the cover when connecting the hose. 2. Make sure the two black gaskets are attached to two heads of hose in case of leaking, with each one on the end. 3. If it is troublesome for you to remove the actual shower head every time you bathe your dog, then we suggest you could install a diverter, which is not included in our package. 4. It is normal condition that the water flows out from the button when turn on the water. Just turn off the button and water will stop flowing. 5. For the water spray button, please just press it down directly, there is water coming out. Press grey water lock towards aside, water stops. 6. We provide 2 general hose adapters which fit most faucets. There may still occurs inapplicable event, please measure your tap size first.

2017
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JOJO STYLE Towel Hooks, Adhesive Stainless Steel Utility Durable Hangers Wall Mount for Home Kitchen Bathroom Living Room, 4 Packs - Silver Manual: Stainless steel hock series-make a beautiful home for you. We make our product in 100% the best of the import material.
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$8.04 USD

Manual: Stainless steel hock series-make a beautiful home for you. We make our product in 100% the best of the import material. It is Suitable for Tile.glass, stainless steel face. Wonderful design with best material and technology, make a creative living for you. Workplace (a smooth hard surface) Suitable for a wood surface, stainless, metal surface, plastic surface, glass, board, tile, icebox, washing machine and so on. Assemble step: 1. Please clean surface alcohol or white spirits wipe lightly let dry. 2. Remove the insulation paper and don’t touch the adhesive liner. 3. Press firmly! PLEASE NOTE: 1. Please clean the oil, dirt, cere in organic liquor. 2. Please don’t use the hanger on the Groudwall, wallpaper, leatheroid and paintwall. 3. Far away the high temperature object, For example: gas cooker, gas stove. 4. Please don’t hang over the max load. And wait 24 hours before use. 5. Make the hanger work on smooth surface. And keep the hanger straight. 6. A expensive goods was forbid hang on it. For example: watch, camera, and mirror. 7. The adhesive paper will be work better if you hot it before use.

2017
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Splashsound Shower Speaker - Waterproof Bluetooth Shower Speaker with Suction Cup, Hanging Clip and Micro SD Card Slot – Clear 5W Audio Output Color:Grey GREAT SOUND: With 5W of output power and a new sound chip, the Splashsound Shower Speaker will provide you with hours
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$13.79 USD

Color:Grey GREAT SOUND: With 5W of output power and a new sound chip, the Splashsound Shower Speaker will provide you with hours of crystal clear, textured and balanced sound from your phone, mp3 player, other bluetooth device, or from an SD card. YOUR SHOWER BUDDY: Playing music and hands free calling (equipped with a built-in mic for hands-free calling) becomes incredibly easy with Splashsound’s lightweight, user-friendly waterproof shower speaker. Features a detachable suction cup as well as a detachable carabiner - stick the speaker to your wall, hang it in the shower or attach it to the side of the bathtub, whichever way is more convenient for you. COMPACT PORTABLE DESIGN: Weighs only 4.2 oz and measures 3.5 inches long X 1.5 inches high, the wireless speaker’s compact size, also make it great as an outdoor portable speaker. Use it wherever you go that is wet – whether it’s the beach, pool, or even in your hot tub. CONNECTIVITY TO BLUETOOTH DEVICES: Easily and quickly connects to nearly all Bluetooth enabled devices, including iPhone, Android, iPod, Samsung, Kindle, smartphones and tablets, with an extended range of up to 33 unobstructed feet. MICRO SD CARD SLOT: The Splashsound shower speaker is equipped with a Micro SD Card slot and can play music stored on a memory card. INSTRUCTIONS FOR VOLUME CONTROL: PRESSING the +/- button one time will skip to the next track. HOLDING down the +/- button will increase and decrease volume. SATISFACTION GUARANTEED: At SplashSound we take pride in the quality of our bluetooth waterproof shower speakers. If you are not completely satisfied, we offer a 60-day money back guarantee.

2017
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Flea and Tick Collar for Dogs and Puppies - Kills, Repels, & Prevents Pests for 8 Months - Waterproof - Stops Bites & Itching - For Large, Medium, and Small Size Dogs. One Size Fits All (Grey) WHY BUY FROM US? If you are not absolutely satisfied, we guarantee you that we will reimburse you for 100% of your order,
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Flea and Tick Collar for Dogs and Puppies - Kills, Repels, & Prevents Pests for 8 Months - Waterproof - Stops Bites & Itching - For Large, Medium, and Small Size Dogs. One Size Fits All (Grey)

WHY BUY FROM US? If you are not absolutely satisfied, we guarantee you that we will reimburse you for 100% of your order, although we are sure you will absolutely love it! ►Premium quality flea and tick collar that kills, repels, and prevents The Grand Pets ProGuard+Flea and Tick Collar provides the protection your pet needs by using the same formula as the national leading brand. This formula is effective and safe for your pets. The sustained release technology allows for the collar to protect your dog for 8 months. ►Waterproof design, for dogs and puppies that both like to stay clean and get dirty Dogs are naturally curious and their curiosity will bring them to all sorts of wet environments. Whether it is playing in the rain, swimming in a lake, or just taking a regular bath, your dog will remain under the protection of the Grand Pets Flea and Tick Collar as it is water resistant and goes undamaged. It will continue to provide the necessary defense against bugs for months, wet or dry. ►One-size-fits-all design for dogs and puppies The innovative design of the 24-inch collar allows for it to fit dogs and puppies (7 weeks and older) of all sizes. It is extremely easy to put on your dog and offers the flexibility to be trimmed down to the necessary size as well as provide the extra length that is needed as your pet grows. The ease of use of the collar is immediately evident. ►Perfect for all of life’s adventures Taking your dog on walks and hikes will no longer leave you with the worry of tracking on fleas and ticks! Grand Pets Flea and Tick ProGuard+ Dog Collar provides the protection from bugs latching on to your dogs’ body that you and your pets are seeking. Start protecting your dog. Click “ADD TO CART NOW”! Package: 1 x Universal Fit - Grand Pets® Flea and Tick Collar for Dogs + 1 x eBook: Caring For Your Dog

2017
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URPOWER Motion Sensor Light, Motion-sensing Battery Powered LED Stick-Anywhere Nightlight,Wall Light for Entrance,Hallway,Basement,Garage,Bathroom,Cabinet,Closet ENERGY-EFFICIENT:Automatically powers off after 15-30 seconds of inactivity, lighting your path as you cross and shutting off
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$18.34 USD
URPOWER Motion Sensor Light, Motion-sensing Battery Powered LED Stick-Anywhere Nightlight,Wall Light for Entrance,Hallway,Basement,Garage,Bathroom,Cabinet,Closet by URPOWER

ENERGY-EFFICIENT:Automatically powers off after 15-30 seconds of inactivity, lighting your path as you cross and shutting off soon after. - BATTERY POWERED:Powered by 3 x AAA batteries per motion sensor (batteries not included) - SURROUNDING AWARENESS:Includes dusk to dawn sensor and motion activation.Automatically turn on when motion is detected within a 7-10 ft. range. - SUPER-BRIGHT LED BULBS: Lumens: 20, last up to 10,000 hours;Simple to install, no hard-wiring,come with super-strong 3M double-sided adhesive pad. - INSTALLATION:Simply use the super-strong 3M double-sided adhesive pads or stick to any metal surface with the built-in magnet,Works great indoor and outdoor, especially as a night light for stairs, steps, hallways, dark closets & cabinets.

2017
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Mega Power 330 Yards Remote Dog Training Collar Rechargeable E-collar with Beep / Vibration / Shock Electronic Electric Collar with Visible Silicone Buttons Size:Two Collars The Mega Power collar is more advanced than equivalent rechargeable dog collars on the market. It has been
$40.24 USD

Size:Two Collars The Mega Power collar is more advanced than equivalent rechargeable dog collars on the market. It has been proven safe, comfortable, and effective for all pets 15 - 60 lbs. within a 300m range. At the push of a button, the remote transmitter sends a signal, activating the collar-receiver. The system can be used with 1 or 2 receivers.  New features of the remote transmitter: Better antenna   LCD backlight display   LED backlight button Simultaneous charging for transmitter and receiver New features of the collar receiver: Improved charging IC - internal controls New belt color drop-proof design TPU belt with increased durability   improved water and dust protection Water Resistant - Water resistance Level: IP3 (Can withstand water equivalent to 0.7 liters per minute if the lid is secured properly) - The collar can be worn in light drizzles but must be removed before bathing, swimming or heavy rain. - Please note that submerging the collar in water WILL cause damage Package Includes: - 1x Remote Transmitter - 2x Collar Receiver - 2x Adjustable TPU Belt - 2x USB Charging Cable - 1x Charger   - 1x Test Bulb - 4 Set of Metal Probes - 1x Warranty Card Seller Warranty: - 12 Month Replacement Warranty - 30 days Money Back Guarantee - Lifetime Support Guarantee

2017
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FociPow Compact Portable Electric Mini Dehumidifier for Living Room Bathroom Kitchen Garage Specification: Material: ABS+PP Dimension: 16*12*21cm(6.30*4.72*8.27inches) Application area: 10-20㎡ Moisture removal: Approx
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$39.09 USD

Specification: Material: ABS+PP Dimension: 16*12*21cm(6.30*4.72*8.27inches) Application area: 10-20㎡ Moisture removal: Approx 250ml per day at (30°C,RH80%) Application area: 10-20㎡ Input power: 100-240V, 50/60Hz Output power: DC9V, 2.5A Water max capacity: 500ml Notices (Please read notices before using the dehumidifier): 1. Our dehumidifier must be used in suitable temperature and humidity. No need to do dehumidification when the weather is in low temperature. 2. Keep the back inlet and top outlet free from air blocking material such as clothing, plastic bags and paper. 3. Always keep the unit in an up-right position to avoid water leakage. 4. Pour the water out when you don't need to use. How to use: 1. Connect power. 2. Switch the dehumidifier ON using the ON/OFF switch. The green LED will be green and you feel a light breeze from the dry air lutnet. 3. Switch OFF, press the ON/OFF button again. 4. When water in the tank is full, the full indicator is yellow. 5. When water in the tank is full, you can remove the water displacement hole from the tank, then pour the water. Package: 1x Dehumidifier 1x Adapter 1x Manual

2017
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Benair Sand Toy Beach Bag Color:Blue Benair mesh bag, the ultimate bag to tidy up! Tired of cleaning up toys all over places? Enjoyed the beach time, but
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$11.49 USD

Color:Blue Benair mesh bag, the ultimate bag to tidy up! Tired of cleaning up toys all over places? Enjoyed the beach time, but frown over those sandy, smelly beach toys? Fun time with kids playing in the bathtub, but has to clean up afterwards? Benair mesh bag is designed to tidy up your space, be it beach toys, lego bricks, bathroom toys, or anything that clutter your room. This super light bag is built with strength, size, and ease-to-use, providing the ultimate de-cluttering solution for your home! Specifics: ► Weight limit: 20 lbs ► Size: 16" long by 9" wide (bottom). 18" tall (not including the shoulder straps) ► Bag weight: 2 ounces/50 grams ► Materials: mesh and oxford fabric Machine washable with gentle cycles.

2017
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Lifeskills for Adult Children About the Author Janet Woititz was the author of Adult Children of Alcoholics, which was on the New York Times bestseller list
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$10.33 USD

About the Author Janet Woititz was the author of Adult Children of Alcoholics, which was on the New York Times bestseller list for over a year. She wrote several other books, including Lifeskills for Adult Children; The Self-Sabotage Syndrome; The Struggle for Intimacy; Marriage on the Rocks; Healing Your Sexual Self and many others. Woititz was the director and founder of the Institute for Counseling and Training in West Caldwell, New Jersey. Alan Garner, M.A. is a nationally-known relationship-skills trainer who lives in Laguna Hills, California. He is the author if several books including the million-copy selling It's OK To Say No To Drugs, a parent/child manual. Excerpt. © Reprinted by permission. All rights reserved. Chapter One Making Contact With Others I feel like I'm staring at a banquet. All around are people I'd like to meet, but I never seem to make contact. The distance between us, it may be just a few feet, but it feels like a million miles. Everyone else looks so comfortable and seems to have such an easy time making friends. If only I knew lust the right thing to say. ―Terri Adult children cringe at the idea of having to make small talk. Growing up in a dysfunctional family means that social skills were not adequately developed. Few people really enjoy small talk, but it is a necessary part of the socialization process. If you only have started to connect with others since you've been in recovery, you are learning to relate on the level of personal problems and pain. That is fine for identifying within the program and appropriate for a support group, but, the truth is, there is life beyond the programs. In the larger culture, and even with program people outside of meetings, personal problems and pain are best shared with people as intimacy grows. Getting to that level is a part of a process that begins with small talk and evolves from there. Small talk is the most non-threatening way that people can begin to know each other. People respond as much to tone and energy as to content. Rushing into personal things creates a sense of intimacy before it really exists. And, believe it or not, talking trivia can be fun. Making contact with others will be easier when you know a few simple truths and develop some skills. The first truth is that most people also feel uncomfortable when they are getting conversations going. They only look at ease, just as you probably do to them. Second, most people would like to have more friends in their lives, just as you would. Third, most people are pleased when someone approaches them, as it takes the pressure off them. This chapter will teach you skills that will help you do better in starting conversations, keeping your conversations going, and talking about yourself. Starting Conversations There is no need for you, like Terri, to search for "just the right thing to say." The truth is that dull, ordinary openers can work even better than clever openers. The main thing is to say something. When you say something, you've made contact, you've opened up the possibility of establishing a relationship, of making a friend. If others are interested, they will respond, and you can apply the skills in this book to use what they say to get a conversation going. There are basically three subjects you can talk about when you start a conversation: yourself, the other person, and the situation. Talking about the other person or the situation you are both in is far more likely to get the other person involved than only talking about yourself. Why!? Because others are much more interested in themselves and what they're doing than they are in you, especially when they don't even know you. When you look at the following openers, you'll see that those on the right, those that talk about the other person or the situation, are far more likely to get conversations going. The best idea is to make the "I" statement first to show your own willingness to share and so as not to appear intrusive. BEGIN I'm looking forward to this movie. CONTINUE What have you heard about it? BEGIN I'm late for work. CONTINUE Why do you think the bus is late? BEGIN I'm a friend of the host. CONTINUE How did you happen to get invited to this party? There are basically three things you can say when you start a conversation: You can ask a question, voice an opinion, or state a fact. To get others to want to join you in conversation, you have to interest and involve them. Asking questions is far more likely to do this than relating only your own opinions or stating facts. For example, consider how much more likely the "CONTINUE" questions are to generate interest than the opinions or facts on the left: BEGIN There are a lot of people here. CONTINUE Why do you suppose so many people came to this speech? BEGIN This washing machine is hard to work. CONTINUE Can you show me how to work it? BEGIN That book looks interesting. CONTINUE What's it about? Most people are reactive when it comes to starting conversations. Like Terri, they see people they'd like to meet, people they'd like to make friends with, yet they don't do anything about it. People who succeed socially are typically proactive. They don't sit around waiting for others to come up to them; they speak up, they make things happen. If you want to succeed at friend-making ―or at practically anything else ―you need to be proactive. EXERCISE: Write down the 10 best things that have ever happened to you. Next, write down whether you or others were responsible for making each of those things happen. Chances are, you will find that most or all of the highlights of your life happened only because you took action and were proactive. Marika: I was stunned when I did this exercise. Here I've been more or less waiting for things to happen in my life, and it turns out that...my going to Europe, my trip to Maui, my meeting my husband, my friendship with Leslie, my job ― virtually everything that's been positive and wonderful in my life has happened because of me! Being proactive in starting conversations is often difficult, especially for women who have been taught they "should" be passive. Often these women take this should to an extreme and not only don't say anything to people they'd like to meet, but also don't smile, look at others, or give any other indication of interest. Following this rule deprives them of any realistic likelihood of making contact. But it also provides them with an excuse: They don't have to blame themselves for not getting what they want. They can blame the should. If you have been following this should (or any other should, for that matter), ask yourself: "Who made up this rule?" Chances are you will find that your mother, a teacher, or some other authority figure in your early childhood told you to follow this rule. Tell yourself that it was just their opinion. It was just something they made up ― or more likely learned from their parents. It isn't carved in stone anywhere. It isn't any great piece of wisdom. And there's no reason for you to go on obeying it. Tell yourself you're an adult now and you can make up your own mind. Then go ahead and speak up. Many people have difficulty starting conversations because they tell themselves that it would be "awful," "horrible" and "humiliating" if the others weren't interested. When you find yourself thinking thoughts like that, ask yourself: "What, realistically, is the worst thing that might happen if I speak up?" Chances are, the worst thing others might do is excuse themselves or walk away. Tell yourself: "If that happened, it would not be terrible. It would just be unfortunate. I don't want it to happen, but I'd live. In fact, I'd be no worse off. I didn't have that person's attention before and I still wouldn't." In addition, remind yourself that you are better off simply for practicing your new skills, regardless of the response. Each time you practice, you get better and better. Then ask yourself: "What's the best thing that might happen?" Looking at it this way, you'll be surprised how vastly more you have to gain than lose by speaking up. Elise: I wanted to meet this fellow who lived in another building at my complex. Smiling and saying hello didn't work, so I asked myself, "What's the worst that could happen if I start a conversation?" The worst was that he'd say he had to go or that he was busy. Then I asked, "What's the best?" The best was that we'd like each other, get married, and have a lifetime of kisses and cuddles and happy times. Looking at it that way, there was only one smart choice ― and I did it! EXERCISE: The next time you find yourself "awfulizing," carry your thoughts to an extreme. For example, if you're thinking about starting a conversation with someone and are worried about being rejected, imagine that person not only rejecting you but also loudly telling everyone in the vicinity that you tried to be friendly. Imagine that person calling up your boss ― and getting you fired! Imagine that person calling up your parents or your children ― and getting you rejected for the "awful" thing you have done. Carrying your thoughts to an extreme can help you look at your worst fears and see how absurd most of them are most of the time. Homework: Set goals for yourself for starting conversations over the next week. Start wherever you feel comfortable. If you're not used to starting conversations, perhaps a goal of smiling at someone might be right for you. Perhaps your goal will be to start a conversation once a day with people you already know. Here are some sample goals you can choose from, combine, or modify for the next week. Smile at someone once a day for a week. Do not attempt to get a conversation going. Smile at two people a day for a week. Do not attempt to get a conversation going. Smile at three people a day for a week. Do not attempt to get a conversation going. Write out your goal for the week, whatever it is, and post it somewhere you will see it and be reminded of it frequently. Many people post it on their bathroom mirror, on their "To Do" list, or in their datebook. After you have achieved your goal for the day, make a note of it, perhaps with a check mark next to the date. Reward yourself daily when you fulfill your goal, both with your congratulations and with something you would not ordinarily get ― perhaps a nice warm bubble bath or a 30-minute walk. Small or large, the only requirement is that your reward be something you want. Your goal is achieved when you do what you set out to do, regardless of whether the other person responds positively. If you don't achieve a goal one day, don't put yourself down. Just get back on track and pick up where you left off the next day. If you are having a hard time remembering to keep your goals, decide to do it each day before you do something else ― say, like taking your lunch break. Once you have completed your first week, build on that success each of the following weeks by advancing one more step on the list. You will grow more self-confident and skillful, and your social life will flower as you continue to do this homework. Eventually, you will come to the end of the list, and your goal at that point might be to maintain your level as long as it seems beneficial to you. Each and every day, no matter which goal you are working on, spend five minutes a day vividly picturing yourself in your mind's eye smiling confidently as you complete that goal. Picture those you are speaking with distinctly, what they look like, what they're wearing. Imagine them returning your smile and responding positively. Such covert rehearsals can contribute greatly to success. Basketball, football, hockey players, public speakers -- successful people from all walks of life -- can attest to the tremendous value of imagining success over and over in your mind before you go for the real thing. What you see in your mind can be what you get.   (c)1990. All rights reserved. Reprinted from Lifeskills for Adult Children by Janet G. Woititz, Ed.D.. No part of this publication may be reproduced, stored in a retrieval system or transmitted in any form or by any means, without the written permission of the publisher. Publisher: Health Communications, Inc., 3201 SW 15th Street, Deerfield Beach, FL 33442.

2017
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